Dating and Religion (or the lack thereof)

Most of my writing lately has been very personal and maybe a little controversial so I’ve kept everything in my journal under wraps. However, I decided to share this piece. I feel like I’m putting myself out there naked by sharing this but somehow I don’t think I’m the only one who feels this way.

Dating and Religion (or the lack thereof)

Dating is hard. In this religion obsessed world we live in, it’s frustrating to be authentic when everyone expects you to be normal. Everyone talks about wanting people to just be themselves but I’ve come to the conclusion that they really don’t. The message I keep getting is “why don’t you just try to be normal?” How is that being myself when “normal” means being like everyone else? I’m not asking everyone else to be like me. I do not want to convert anyone. Just accept me for who I am.

The question of religion always comes up:

Question: Do you go to church?
Answer: No

Q: Why don’t you go to church?
A: I don’t believe in religion.

Statement: I’m looking for a God fearing woman.
Me: Why should I fear God?

Q: Why don’t you fear God?
A: I respect the Universe and the natural world.

Q: Don’t you believe in God?
A: I don’t believe there is any one man, woman or thing that is omnipotent. I believe we should take care of the universe and each other to allow the natural order of things to continue. You do not have to believe what I believe.

Q: Do you believe in heaven and hell?
A: No, I don’t. We all carry good and evil inside of us and choose to follow one or the other.

I once had someone say to me. “Can’t you just go to church even though you don’t believe?”
Me: No, I won’t go to church just because. I’m not a hypocrite. I want to be true to myself.

My response: You go to church and you don’t live by the teaching of your church.
Their reply: I ask for forgiveness. So aren’t the most important questions; What kind of person I am?  How do I treat others? Am I kind etc., etc.,?

I grew up christian but I’ve changed my mindset and I’m finding it difficult to stay in a relationship where my point of view is dismissed or trivialized as a passing fancy. I will hold out for understanding or continue this life journey solo. I’ve had my share of relationships some good, some bad, some indifferent. I’ve learned enough from them to know “to thine own self be true.” I’m not trying to debate anyone nor change anyone’s mind about what they believe. However, I will not go along with the status quo just to say I’m in a relationship and half of a couple.