Starting to fulfill my goals and aspirations for 2014

I’ve been pretty good so far at accomplishing my goals and aspirations for 2014. I know it’s still January and I still have a long way to go but so far this year I’ve already spent 14 days with my parents and I’ve booked a trip for my mother and I to go away for 14 days. We will be going to Bermuda in March.

I’m trying to spend as much time as I can spend with them now before I start my travels for the year. Sometimes I feel a little guilty that I’m gone so much but I realize that I cannot suppress my dreams, If I do I’ll start to get bitter and resent the ones I put my dreams on hold for. That is not a good place to be for anyone. I hope they understand that I love them but that I need to do what I need to do to.

Here is a loose itinerary of my travels for this year. April – May; St. Martin & Guadeloupe, then back to the USA for my niece’s graduation from university. July & August; England, Scotland, Spain & Germany. Sept, Oct, Nov: Ghana, Kenya, Tanzania. I’m so excited and there is so much to be done. I need to obtain visas, immunizations & air plane tickets.

I will be doing volunteer work for two weeks at an orphanage in Kenya and another two weeks with the Maasai Mara. I’m also thinking of volunteering in Tanzania but I haven’t signed up for that one yet. I think I’ll play it by ear. 

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The Story of Toast

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“What is your useful skill in a tangible situation?”

I really wanted to share this story. I think it deserves to be heard. Not that I have such a huge following but even if only one other person reads it I’m ok with that. I think the story is worth sharing.

Solitude

I posted about solitude a while back and I thought I’d put it out there again because somehow people still get that there is a difference to being alone and being lonely. Here it is below:

I need great periods of solitude to keep me balanced. Just because I enjoy solitude doesn’t mean I’m lonely or that I’m anti-social. I enjoy other peoples company but I do not need the constant company of others. I believe people tend to misunderstand me because of that and tend to ask “don’t you get lonely?” I find myself having to explain that solitude is different than loneliness, especially when it’s self-imposed solitude that one enjoys.

Solitude:  The state of being alone

Loneliness: Affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone.

A New Year, Embracing Life, and Turning 50

I welcome 2014. I intended to post this at the beginning of the new year, however I never got around to it. Now, I’ve turned around and it’s already 21 January. I’ve already listed my goals and aspirations in an earlier blog enter so I won’t hash it out again here.

I had a travel list as long as my arm for 2014. I have cut down the number of countries I’m visiting but I’ll stay in each country longer. After spending three months in Panama last year I realized I love slow travel. It gives me better insight into that particular country and allows me to participate in the everyday life.

I’ll be fifty years old in February. I’m elated to have lived this many years so far. There are those who choose not to celebrate because they dread getting older. I think of those who did not live to this age and I rejoice on the anniversary of my birth because I’m always glad to be alive.

It was my intention to have an all out blowout with a rented venue, caterer etc., etc., to celebrate this milestone. I scaled down that plan however. I decided just having a party with family and friends is celebration enough, I don’t have to break the bank to do it. It will still be festive and hopefully everyone in attendance will have a good time.

Minimalism Game – Day 20

Day 20 – Letting go of 20 items. This is the end of the game for me. I know it’s not the end of the month but it has been a very cleansng experience and I have nothing else I want to let go off at this time. However from now on, if I let one thing into my life I’ll let go of two things.

In my quest to get rid of things. I’m playing a game this month 1425463_10152088763796343_831783761_ohttp://www.theminimalists.com/game. I don’t know how long I’ll last, I started 1 December. Get rid of 1 thing on the 1st, get rid of two things on the 2nd, get rid of three things on the 3rd, etc.

Minimalism Game – Day 19

Day 19 – Letting go of 19 items to include my 2012 Essence Women of the year issue.

In my quest to get rid of things. I’m playing a game this month http://www.theminimalists.com/game. I don’t know how long I’ll last, I started 1 December. Get rid of 1 thing on the 1st, get rid of two things on the 2nd, get rid of three things on the 3rd, etc.

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Minimalism Game – Day 18

Day 18 – Today I’m letting go of 18 hangers. Don’t judge. They came from my closet where ugly, horrible hangers go to die .

In my quest to get rid of things. I’m playing a game this month http://www.theminimalists.com/game. I don’t know how long I’ll last, I started 1 December. Get rid of 1 thing on the 1st, get rid of two things on the 2nd, get rid of three things on the 3rd, etc.

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A Liebster Award

Thanks to Silver Linnings Project for nominating me for a Liebster award (an award for new bloggers). I’m honored she thought enough of my blog to nominate me.

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Here are the rules associated with the Liebster award:
1. Thank the person who nominated you and link to their blog
2. You must answer the 10 questions given to you by the nominee before you.
3. You must nominate 10 of your favorite blogs with fewer than 200 followers and notify them of their nomination
4. You must come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer.

These are the questions I was given by Sliver Linnings Project:
  1. Who or what inspired you to start blogging?
  2. When did you start blogging?
  3. What has surprised you most about blogging?
  4. Please tell us more about the name of your blog
  5. Which blog post are you most proud of and why?
  6. If your blog became a film, who would play you?
  7. If your blog had a soundtrack, what would be the opening song?
  8. What are you grateful for today? (big or small)?
  9. What is your favourite quote?
  10. What has been the best advice you’ve received?

Who or what inspired you to start blogging? I was inspired to start this blog because I missed Live Spaces. I used to blog on there and developed friendships with quite a few folks. That space was closed down and I lost all the content to my old blog because I didn’t transfer it or save it to my hard drive by the deadline given. I stopped blogging. I started blogging again when I decided to simplify my life and to get back to the core of my being. I started this blog as a way to keep a record of my growth as a person. Also I thought if I could inspire just one person that would be great indeed. Small things matter.

When did you start blogging? I started this blog in 2011 but I didn’t post to it regularly. I really started posting more regularly last year.

What has surprised you most about blogging? It’s just like everything else in life if you don’t keep at it, it will slip through the cracks. I don’t think I’ll ever establish (here on WordPress) the camaraderie I developed with the bloggers on Live Spaces. Live Spaces felt more intimate somehow. It felt more like a village.

Please tell us more about the name of your blog? I believe that we never stop growing, learning, and changing. Everyday I’m becoming more and more myself by taking control of my thoughts, my being, how I respond to life etc.  I am also living a more intentional life. I am Becoming Myself thus the name of my blog “onbecomingmyself”

Which blog post are you most proud of and why? That’s kind of difficult because I don’t think I’ve really put out that much great content so far. Keep coming back though, I’m getting there :-). If I have to pick, one I guess I’ll say this one.

If your blog became a film who would play you? As of today either Macy Gray or Erykah Badu.

If your blog had a soundtrack what would be the opening song? She’s got diamonds on the soles of her shoes by Paul Simon, because of the symbolism in that song.

What are you grateful for today? (big or small). Today 17 January 2014, I’m grateful that I can afford glasses to be able to read. I picked up my new glasses this morning and I realized there are many people in the world who need glasses but cannot afford to visit the optometrist nor purchase a pair of glasses.

What is your favorite quote? I just got a new favorite quote recently so I’ll list that one. “It’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” I used to always worry about what others think of me, but not any more. Now, I dress how I want to, do what I want to, and go where I want to. If anyone thinks it’s ridiculous that’s on them :-).

What has been the best advice you’ve received? Allow people to be kind to you.

I am nominating these four blogs. I know the rules say ten but I only have four. Please follow the rules as posted above. My ten questions are listed below. Have fun.

That Indian Minimalist

SoleJourner

WisconZen

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1. Give one word to describe you.
2. What is your favorite fruit?
3. Do you believe in magic?
4. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert and why?
5. Are you afraid of dying?
6. What did you do yesterday?
7. Do you still write letters? (the kind you put in an envelope, put a stamp on, and drop in the mail).
8. Why do you blog?
9. If your blog had a soundtrack, what would be the opening song?
10. What is your favorite inspirational quote?

Minimalism Game – Day 17

Day 17 – Today I’m letting go of one blazer, three dresses, two belts, one hat, two pocket books, one shirt, two tops, two picture frames, and three pairs of chop sticks.

In my quest to get rid of things. I’m playing a game this month http://www.theminimalists.com/game. I don’t know how long I’ll last, I started 1 December. Get rid of 1 thing on the 1st, get rid of two things on the 2nd, get rid of three things on the 3rd, etc.

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